Texting...texting...texting... while you were dating it went on all day long. But once you broke up? You figured all contact with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend would come to a grinding halt.
But hey, what if your ex hasn't stopped text-messaging you? What does it mean when your ex still texts even after the relationship has ended?
Usually there are two possible scenarios. In one, you were the one who initiated the breakup. Your ex is texting you because he or she is trying to keep the relationship alive. They want the chance to get back together, and that's why they're blowing up your phone all the time.
In the other scenario, your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you first. And not surprisingly? Your ex is text-messaging you for the exact same reason. He or she is trying to keep the door open... they're not prepared to lose you just yet, and don't want to cut all the ties.
Your Ex is NOT Texting You Just To Say Hello
Let's get one thing straight: your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend is not sending you a text-message just to say hi. They're not "checking up on you" or writing just to "see how you're doing". No, your ex's intentions are much more self-centered than that.
Your ex is looking for information. They're checking up on you, while still trying to give you small reminders of themselves. A text-message is a less-invasive way of reaching out. Your ex won't outright tell you they miss you (unless they want you back), but they're trying to send the message of: "Hey, don't go anywhere just yet".
Should You Reply To Your Ex's Text Messages?
When it comes to handling texts from an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, it depends on your overall intentions. If your ultimate goal is to get your ex back? You'll want to keep your hand close to your chest, and not reveal too much by texting them back.
By ignoring an ex's text-messages - at least for a while - you're sending the message that you're busy doing other things. Your ex will panic, because he or she will instantly believe those other things are more important than them. And if you're trying to get your ex back? This can be a very good thing.
Making your ex uncertain and uncomfortable as to what you're doing (and who you're with) is a critical part of getting them to want you back. If you're tired of playing back and forth text-message games with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, you need to learn which methods and techniques will help get them back... and which ones will only keep your breakup going forever.
Above everything, you can't get your ex back until you've adapted a step by step plan. Don't try to wing it, and don't try to fly by the seat of your pants. Always know exactly what you're doing next, and exactly when you should be doing it.